The living garment…

Look around you.  If you’re inside, examine the walls that surround you, whatever surface you are sitting on, the tile or rug on the floor, and the glass in the windows that allow you see the larger world outside.  Consider the grass, the trees, and the garbage can at the end of your driveway.  What do all of these things have in common?

Things you might find around a home?  Yes, but look deeper.  There is something much richer and more vital that unites these things.

Each of the items I mentioned is held together by an invisible, unidentified and impossible to recreate force.  We all learned about how atoms interact with other atoms to form matter in elementary school.  Did you know that the greatest physicists in the world have yet to explain why or how that happens?  That they are still in search of the “God particle” that explains why the elements of the periodic table that we all learned about in chemistry behave as they do?

While looking outside did you see a pigeon, a sparrow, a squirrel, an ant, or your neighbor?  What do all of these creatures have in common?

Well, yes, they are all creatures, that is one answer.  Yes, they too are “held together” by an invisible, unidentified and impossible to recreate force.  But look deeper.

Each of these creatures appeared in this animated by an unseen, unquantifiable life force that sprang forth from life itself; connected to generation after generation of evolution and replication that came before as well as the seed for generation after generation of evolution and replication that will come after.  

Each of the animate creatures I named, along with every other creature that inhabits the Earth all possess that same life force – an energy that has persisted as long as there has been life.  The energy that animates a squirrel is the same energy that animates a slug.  Invisible, impossible to identify, isolate or replicate, but none-the-less present.

So what is my point here?  I’ll use the words of Emmet Fox here:  “in deed and truth, we are all one, component parts of the living garment of God.”  There is no need to look beyond ourselves when we realize that every single thing we see or engage with is a component part of the living garment of God. Every. Single. One.

This for me is humility.  There is no question for me that the suffering of others impacts me, because the suffering of others impacts the larger system of which I am a part.  The individual cells that make up my toenails are very different than the individual cells that comprise the lens of my eye.  While very different in look and function, these two cells are connected in a system where an infection in one group of cells can threaten or extinguish the life of others.

For me the gift of humility is the paradoxical understanding that we are all different while being the same.  We each bring unique characteristics that serve a role in the greater whole of which we are all but component parts.

 

 

Emmet Fox, The Sermon on the Mount, The Key to Success in Life, Buccaneer Books, Cutchogue, NY, 1934

Matching Calamity with Serenity – Zoom Meeting

Many people are struggling with managing their anxiety as we are navigating the impacts of the coronavirus in the greater New York area.  The 12 Steps are essentially an anxiety or stress management process that works amazingly well in “rough going”.  Applying the steps to any problem can bring clarity and return you to a place of serenity, regardless of what is occurring around you.

If you’re interested in joining this conversation, please use the login information below:

Matching Calamity with Serenity:  Using the 12 Steps to Manage Anxiety in Challenging Times
Thursday, 8:00 PM Eastern
This group will demonstrate how to use the 12 Steps to relieve the anxiety we feel in uncertain times.  The discussion will focus on problems or worries that are suggested by the group as topics.  The meeting facilitator will then demonstrate how to use the 12 steps to uncover the underlying thinking that contributes to increased anxiety and offer suggestions for how to change it.
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Zoom Meetings this week

Come join us in the following 12 Step Zoom meetings:

Monday night, 8:00 pm:  Emotional Sobriety Step Study

Saturday morning, 10:00 am:  Overeaters Anonymous meeting

Sunday morning, 9:30 am:  Into Action, Open AA meeting

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We live in extraordinary times…

There is no better way to describe the last week than extraordinary.  School cancellations, travel bans, thousands of Americans with a novel, poorly understood virus with an elevated rate of mortality, social distancing and the recommendations for isolation.  Who knew life could change so quickly?

At times like these, I am reminded of the acceptance chapter in the AA Big Book.  While many people may be thinking the language,  “nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake…”, that’s not what I am thinking.  I am thinking of the following  language:

“When I stopped living in the problem and began living in the answer, the problem went away.”

“When I focus on what’s good today, I have a good day, and when I focus on what’s bad, I have a bad day.  If I focus on a problem, the problem increases; if I focus on the answer, the answer increases.”

“I must keep my magic magnifying mind on my acceptance and off my expectations, for my serenity is directly proportional to my level of acceptance.”

We are where we are.  Things are as they are. This microscopic, circular thing with stuff sticking out the sides is wreaking havoc on the global population.  I can accept this truth or I can spend my day frustrated and angry.  I don’t get to choose the events occurring around me but I do get to choose my response to them.

For today, that response is acceptable.  For today, for me, that response is to look for the bigger picture and find the good in what is happening. I can choose to be angry or I can choose to be grateful.

I choose to focus on what is good here.

No more meetings at my home…

I moved this week – the space I’ve relocated to is not conducive for a meeting in my home.  I’ve been hosting this conversation for five years.  I’m taking a hiatus until I find my next home and can open it to all of you again.

Thank you for he blessing of you in my life.  You’ve helped me more than I could ever have helped you.

You are loved.

 

July 2 – The meeting is on my boat…

The meeting July 2 will be held on my boat in Port Jefferson harbor.  The meeting will start at 7:30 as usual – but I suggest you get to the dock by 6:45 – 7:00 as it can take up to 20 minutes to get to the boat from the dock.

BOAT DIRECTIONS

If you drive into Port Jeff from Nichols Road on 25A, Beach Street is at the bottom of the hill that leads into the village- it is right before the deli on the left side of the road (If you reach the boat ramp you’ve gone too far).  Turn left onto beach street – follow it past the houses.  On the right, immediately past the Tilcon Gravel gate, you will see a second gate leading into a parking lot.  Pull in there and park.  Walk toward the water and down the metal gangway, on the right hand side you’ll see a little canopy on the dock, wait there for the launch/water taxi.  My daughter, Moira, is working tonight.  If you tell her that you are looking for Elizabeth, she’ll bring you out to the boat.direction.001

REMINDER

We are working on Step 7.   Remember to bring 3 worries with you.   They can be anything that this troubling you, any fear you can’t reconcile, etc.  You are welcome to share as much or as little as you’d like.

Also, you might want to bring a sweatshirt or jacket.  It can get chilly on the water when the sun sets.

See you later!

 

The God of My Understanding…

I have an awesome, amazing God.  The God of My Understanding (GMU) is the origin of everything – the Alpha and Omega – the beginning, the end and everything in between.  There is no part of my world and day-to-day life experience that is separate from God.  The GMU lives in the concrete that I walk on in Manhattan, the trees that line my driveway at home and in every single cell that constitutes me in this moment today.  My Higher Power (HP) is not some esoteric being that sits separate and apart from me.  My HP is everything.

Because the GMU is everything – it is impossible for anything to be separate from God.  Everything is of God – with no exceptions.  If God is omnipresent, ever present and all loving, how could there every be a time when God is NOT happy with me?  If God is in it all – a part of every element of the fabric of life – how can God not be okay with everything exactly as it is?

And if everything is exactly as it is, how can anything I do be anything less than within God’s plan?

My Higher Power is thrilled that I just breathe – regardless of whether I make adaptive choices or not.  My body is “engineered” by God to run best when I am sober, eat a healthy diet, exercise and allow myself adequate sleep at night.  When I choose to align with these behaviors, I have the privilege of living in a strong, healthy body.  Were I to fill my body with mind-altering drugs, eat poorly, forget to exercise and burn the candle at both ends, the quality of my life is the outcome of my choices.  On either path, God’s will is done.  With either outcome, my Higher Power smiles.  Even when I am making choices that do not align with my well-being, the Universe has a path to improve the lives of others through my delinquency.  My abuse of alcohol or other substances opens the opportunity for legions of people providing services in rehabs and out-patient counseling to have well-paying jobs.  If I choose to eat poorly and allow my body to deteriorate, there are doctors, nurses and hospitals full of people who have well-paying jobs because of my poor self-care.  My suffering that arises from choices that demonstrate the worst in me creates the  opportunity for others to demonstrate the best in them.

The GMU is not interested in me making Her happy.  The GMU has no agenda for me except that I achieve the level of potential that I set for myself.  The GMU most certainly doesn’t need me to praise Her all day every day as my very life is a testament to the power of Her creation and the depth of Her love for me.

My HP rejoices when I am finally able to take the necessary steps to make my life better.  Not because I have aligned with “what God wants for me” but because my alignment with more adaptive living ends my suffering and places me more firmly on the path to bring others joy and support.  My Higher Power is the rapid outpouring of good, constantly reorganizing itself – offering opportunity for change in every breath – yours and mine.

The God of My Understanding does not find joy in my praise for Her, She thrills when I overcome the limitations that impede my life and share what I have learned with others for their lives to improve as well.  Not because it benefits Her, but because it benefits all of us.  I have an awesome God.